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Merkur ranked Arielle a nine out of ten for her online appearance and described her as ‘very pretty, sweet and down to earth/great personality’.As well as online pictures, age and appearance scores, he also kept track of message communications and whether to monitor the dates ‘closely’ or ‘casually’.He rated a woman's physical appearance on a scale between one and 10. The spreadsheet was colour-coded: blue indicated upcoming dates, orange meant "monitor closely" and bold signified "ASAP", or as soon as possible.The meticulously detailed spreadsheet quickly went viral after Merkur sent it to one woman, Arielle, 26, following a conversation about it during one of their dates.Arielle ranked highly, but one lady named Marisa didn’t fare so well and was described as ‘very jappy [slang for Jewish American Princess]’ and not suited to him.When passing the document on Merkur joked: ‘I hope this email doesn’t backfire, because I really had a great time,’ however it took Arielle only two days to forward the spreadsheet on to her friends for some Monday morning entertainment.As I scanned the list, I started to notice some interesting trends: A lack of attraction was the most common reason we stopped seeing each other. Then there were the two times when we just ran out of things to talk about. But on two different dates, I could not, for the life of me, find any more words. We found ourselves at the top of Mount Awkward with nowhere to go.And then there were the two women who couldn’t run out of things to say.
I’m also keeping more of an open mind: When a date has gone even moderately well, instead of continuing to swipe my way to that elusive “perfect” match, I’m asking for a second date with the good-enough ones. READ MORE: How to survive the holidays when you’re single or divorced What to tell your relatives when they ask why you’re single So you’ve been unlucky in love.
I could figure out what was and wasn’t working, and then I could recalibrate my dating strategy with better results.
And so I kept track of whom I went out with; how we met (through an app, friends, etc.); how many dates we went on; and who ultimately decided to end things.
Merkur revealed his secret scoring process to date ‘Arielle’, after ranking her in first place on his chart.
During the date he told her about his unique system for keeping track of his dozen dates and then forwarded her the spreadsheet, to prove that she was at the top of the list.